Social Media Report

Over the last couple of weeks I have added several social media sites to my seemingly endless list. :-P

I’m a curious person by nature, so it’s interesting to see what topics people are talking about.

I also like to observe people, and social media lets me do lots of that as well.

However, I’m finding that keeping up with all the social media has become a huge time suck for me.

Not necessarily because I’m accomplishing anything, but because I enjoy watching how people communicate and interact on social media. :-D

I think I’m going to have to start using my timer to limit how much of my day I spend on social media.

I did want to report back on my impressions of some of the new networks I’ve tried.


I like KoinUp, because I like looking at digital art.

There are some really great artists on the site.

That said, the interface leaves a little to be desired.

It seems a tad – empty, and it takes a lot of clicks to get where you want to go.

I suppose I have been spoiled by Flickr, but it just seems clunky, which is too bad, because again, there are a lot of great artists on the site.

The site has discussion boards, but from what little I’ve seen, hardly anyone uses them.

It also took me a bit to understand ‘contacts’ on KoinUp.

Contacts are like ‘followers’ on Flickr (I think?) and they have an ‘add to your favorites’ button.

People can add you back (or not), same as on Flickr and other sites.

I’m going to stick with it for a few more weeks and see how it goes.


I must confess, Reddit confuses me.

It’s very text heavy and finding your way around is not at all intuitive.

I was pretty lost, even after reading all of their ‘Welcome to Reddit’ material.

On the advice of EverAfterr (check out her blog here), I added the RES app to my browser and was able to at least sort of get a handle on things.

I have my subreddits sorted to appear on my dashboard, though I weeded out most of the automatic subreddits you get.

It doesn’t seem to be a very active network for SL’ers, from what I’ve seen in my few weeks there.

I tend to be more of a lurker than an active poster myself, so maybe that isn’t true, I don’t know.

To date, most of what I’ve seen is bloggers posting links to their blogs.

Which is fine, but since I follow most of their blogs already, Reddit may be a redundant network for me.

Having ‘friends’ on Reddit is also a bit confusing.

So far, it seems I can add someone as a ‘friend,’ but it looks more like I am ‘following’ them, so maybe it’s just a difference in terminology?

At least adding the RES dashboard helped, so that I don’t feel like I’m being slammed by a wall of text when I open it. :-D

Again, I’m going to stick with it for a few more weeks.

Now that I figured out how to post a question/topic, I might actually do that!


I like Twitter a lot because of the ‘right now’ nature of it.

I’m a big fan of satire and sarcasm, and there’s tons of it to be found on Twitter. :-P

I’ve been using the Twitter Card that I set up last week, and so far things are working fine.

I’m trying to be more active on Twitter and less of a lurker, though it doesn’t come easy for me.

I was using TweetDeck to track various topics related to SL, but in the next few weeks I am going to try out HootSuite and see how that works for me.

I also found a couple of other alternatives to TweetDeck and HootSuite that I may try as well.

Other Networks

I am still researching Flickr and Google+ so I can get the most out of them.

However, since they are more ‘robust’ topics than the other networks, I will discuss them in a different post.

I did also finally join the SL Universe forums, so after I have a bit of experience under my belt there, I will report on it.

If you are on any of the networks mentioned here, feel free to add me – the more the merrier!

LOTD #141 – Smoke Break

LOTD 141She looked up guiltily as she heard the click of the camera.

She wasn’t supposed to take breaks and she knew it.

He’d warned her last time that he’d fire her.

But as he looked into those guilty blue eyes, he just couldn’t do it



Hair:  Truth – Sassy2 – Gingers 04

Skin: Eye Candi – Nina – Tone 4

Shape: Laqroki – Glow (modded)

Hands: Slink – Elegant

Feet: Slink – High

Eyes: IKON – Utopia – Pale Cerulean

Dress: Barely Legal – Shark Bait Corset Dress

Shoes: Essenz – Cape Town – Black

Cigarette Holder: Reasonable Desires – Cabaret Cigarette in Holder

Pose:  Exposeur


LOTD #140 – Lonely Reality

LOTD 140Mom hadn’t known she’d taken this picture.

It was a few days after the divorce; Mom was going out with her girlfriends – their attempt to ‘keep her busy.’

But Kelsey knew.

She could see it in moments like this – how alone Mom felt.



Hair:  Truth – Delphine

Skin: Eye Candi – Nina – Tone 4

Shape: Laqroki – Glow (modded)

Hands: Slink – Elegant

Feet: Slink – High

Eyes: IKON – Utopia – Pale Cerulean

Top: Purple Moon – Chica – Black

Skirt: Lumiere – Group Gift (@FaMESHed)

Earrings: Maxi Gossamer – Black Sun – Silver

Bracelets: Maxi Gossamer – Sparkly Pearl Cuffs – Silver

Rings:  Izzie’s – Celestial Midi Rings

Shoes: G&D – Patricia

Pose/Prop:  Exposeur – Sartorialist Showcase


G&D is a ‘new to me’ shoe creator.

I picked up a pair of their shoes for 21 Shoe, and found these in the store.

I <3 them!

The Secret to Shadows?

Ok, people – somebody knows, and I’m not giving up til I find the answer.

*crosses arms and glares*

What is up with my shadows in SL?

Since a few recent upgrades to my computer, I’ve been running at Ultra with all the fancy shadows and lighting on and loving it.

It’s part of the reason I started taking photos in SL – because they no longer looked like the pixellated junk I’d been taking before.

However, I’ve noticed an issue, and I can’t seem to find an answer to the problem anywhere.

I’ve found a few places that mention the same issue I’m having, but I can’t seem to find where a solution is mentioned.

Up til now, I’ve just dealt with the problem by fixing it in Photoshop.

But I’m left with the feeling that there must be an answer *somewhere*.

Here’s the issue:

When I take photos, I generally wear my mesh body.

If I don’t wear my mesh body, I generally at least wear my mesh hands and feet.

Avatar feet are hideous, and although I resisted mesh hands initially, after wearing them for so long, I can’t stand the avatar hands anymore either.

I’ve had the issue in a few photos, but as I said, I just cleaned up the photo in Photoshop, or the photo was taken at an angle where the issue wasn’t really noticeable.

The other day I started to play around with using a projector to take some photos, trying to achieve some really dramatic lighting effects.

Here’s one of the shots I ended up not using:

ShadowIssues1I was really happy with the dramatic lighting and shadows I got using the projector.

Sometimes, however, I don’t notice problems.

Like the hand shadow.

Again, I usually end up either cropping out the problem area or fixing it in Photoshop.

Fixing it in Photoshop can be very time-consuming, so I’ve been trying to find a way to fix the issue when I take the photo.

Here’s a close-up of the problem area:

ShadowIssues2It may be a bit hard to see, because the photo is dark.

If you look closely, you can see the shadows of two hands – my mesh hand AND my avatar hand.

Now, I was initially confused by this, as my avatar hand is alpha’ed out, so it’s not visible.

Then I realized that the alpha just makes it invisible to me, not to the computer.

So it sort of makes sense that the computer renders both shadows.

The question is – how do I make it so it doesn’t?

Is that even possible?

I know I have seen photos by other people where the shadow in the pic doesn’t have this issue.

They could have just fixed in Photoshop (or some other photo-editor), but did they?

Is there some setting I can tweak that will save me having to do that post-processing?

In my research, I did come across an article by Honour McMillan about having issues with mesh rendering correctly.

In it, she mentions that sometimes she will derender avatars in order to get the shot she wants.

However, doing so may have unintended consequences.

The system sometimes considers mesh objects as avatars.

I’m sure someone out there with more technical knowledge than me understands why.

It does at least explain, when I go to crowded events and derender all the avatars, why other things can also disappear (like certain gacha machines at the Arcade, for example).

But back to my problem.

ShadowIssues3As you can see in this photo, there are clearly two foot shadows.

One from my mesh foot, and one from my avatar foot.

Soooo frustrating!!!

Someone please help me!!!

Any and all feedback welcome. :-D

LOTD #139 – Eulogy

LOTD 139She had been in a silly mood that day.

As they wound their way through the museum, she stopped to strike a pose next to one of the statues.

They had been so carefree in those days – never planning anything.

He shoved the worn picture into his pocket, stepped up to the podium, and cleared his throat.



Hair:  Diva! – Layla – Moonstone

Skin: Eye Candi – Nina – Tone 4

Shape: Laqroki – Glow (modded)

Hands: Slink – Elegant

Feet: Slink – High

Eyes: IKON – Utopia – Pale Cerulean

Dress: Aushka & Co – Mini Dress Retro Chen

Earrings: Maxi Gossamer – Black Sun – Silver

Shoes: DE Boutique – Pandora Heels

Statue: Paper Moon – Visage – Stone Statue 06 (@Fantasy Gacha Carnival)

Candelabra: Paper Moon – Visage – Light Rose Gold  (@Fantasy Gacha Carnival)


Sex and Second Life

Surprised Cat

This is what I looked like when I googled ‘Second Life Sex’ trying to find an image for this post.
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I know, I know, it’s a clickbait headline, but it really is what this post is about. :-)

Lately, I have come across several posts and discussions about the subject.

Becky wrote a post about people’s views and activities concerning sex in SL.

I tried to participate in her survey, but alas, since I am not sexually active in SL, I didn’t get past question 1. :-P

Her survey showed some interesting perspectives about people’s views on sex in SL.

For many users (including me), SL isn’t about sex at all.

I saw another blog post from Ella over at SL Naturist.

She discussed Becky’s post and her take, including the viewpoints of some older men who are her friends.

Many people come to SL to enjoy the social aspect, which does not HAVE to include sex.

Ella’s post included a link that pointed me to the Prim Dolls blog, where Deoridhe has a whole series of posts on horrible (though often hilarious) encounters with sex-seekers.

Becky had also written a post about her feelings on random IM’s from men.

After reading through the various comments of those on Becky’s blog who commiserated about the whole situation, and reading through several of Deoridhe’s posts, I’m left scratching my head.

I can’t remember the last time someone randomly IM’d me with some lame line, looking for sex.

In fact, I’m not sure it’s ever happened to me.

I’ve never randomly received a dick pick from a stranger.

(In case you’ve ever thought sending a dick pick was a good idea, in RL or SL, check out this video of RL women and their reactions to dick picks.)

In fact, the only really comparable thing I can think of that’s happened to me was once when I was rehearsing.

I was at a dance venue, going over my routine for the next’s day performance.

I was wearing a rather revealing outfit from r2, and while rehearsing, received a random IM from some stranger complimenting me on a certain piece of my anatomy.

I was taken aback at first, but I simply said ‘Thanks,’ and promptly closed the IM box.

The person lingered on radar for another few minutes and then left.

Now, don’t get me wrong – I’m totally over the moon that I’m not constantly hit on by strangers for sex, because I can imagine how annoying it can be.

But – what gives?

Do I smell?

Am I not pretty enough?

Do I give off a ‘not in million years’ vibe and so no one bothers?

Is my profile somehow unfriendly?

Am I not hanging out at the right (wrong?) places?

What about you?

Is sex a large part of the reason you’re in SL?

What’s the most hilarious/awful pick-up line you’ve gotten (or given)?