Men Don’t Dance?

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After several of my posts about men in dancing in SL appeared, I got into conversations about why men don’t dance.

I don’t know why they don’t.  It seems like a win-win all around.

Here’s my reasoning:

  • As a male dancer in a (usually) mostly female dance troupe, your services as a dancer would be constantly in demand. (Who doesn’t like to feel wanted?)
  • With new tools making it easier to incorporate couples dancing, males are/may be in higher demand.  (See ↑.)
  • A lot of audience members are female, and they love to watch men dancing. (Again, see ↑.)
  • A chance to express your creativity through dance.
  • Dancing is fun!  Especially with a partner.

Now, it was pointed out to me that perhaps men feel that dancing in a troupe is too much like ‘dressing up dolls’ for fun.  Perhaps, although I would argue that that reasoning would apply to even being in SL in the first place.  Most of us don’t wander around naked.

Maybe men just are too lazy to learn how to do something as technical as dancing in SL.  It does require a bit of knowledge, after all.

Maybe dancing is viewed by men as a ‘girly’ pursuit and not worthy of their masculine attention.

I’ve also wondered whether the fact that (supposedly) most of the men in SL are actually women has any bearing on the lack of male dancers.  I’m not sure I buy either argument there.

It was also pointed out (by more than one person) that at any gathering of women (like in a dance troupe), there is guaranteed drama – something men avoid at all costs.  Probably more true than most women would like to admit.

So, what is the solution to getting more men interested in dancing in SL?  Make it more masculine?  Add tools?  Lasers?  Guns?  Make the ladies duke it out when they have a disagreement?  All of the above?

Let me hear your thoughts on this issue!